FREE 45-MINUTE LIVE INTRODUCTION + Optional Live Q & A

Why Do Certain People Still Trigger You,

Even When You Know Your Enneagram Type?

Discover the hidden relationship patterns beneath the Enneagram,

and why understanding them can change what you see when relationships become reactive.

With Stephanie Davis & Elke Kurtz

August 26 • 5:30 PM Pacific • Live Online

45-minute presentation • Stay for up to 45 minutes of live Q&A and discussion

Can’t make it live? Register anyway

and we’ll send you the presentation replay.

Knowing Your Type Doesn’t Always Improve

What Happens Between You and Another Person

You can know your Enneagram type inside and out. You can recognize your habits, your defenses, even catch yourself in the middle of a familiar reaction.

And still, with certain people, something happens.

You become more reactive than you intended. The same tension appears. The same misunderstanding repeats. You may even see it happening and still find yourself caught inside it.

That’s because your Enneagram type is only part of what is operating in the relationship.

The Person in Front of You is Only Part of the

Relationship You’re Having

Imagine someone important to you doesn’t return your call.

The event is simple. But one person experiences, “They’re abandoning me.” Another thinks, “They’re trying to control the relationship.”

Someone else assumes, “I’ve done something wrong.” Another decides, “They don’t care about me.”

Same event. Completely different internal experience.

So where does that difference come from?

That is the question we’ll begin exploring in this free introduction.

A Personal Invitation from Stef & Elke

There’s Another Layer Beneath Enneagram Type

Much of what happens in relationship is shaped before we have words for it.

Early in life, we form unconscious expectations about what relationship is, what we can expect from another person, and what we need to do to stay connected, protected, or intact.

These patterns can continue operating beneath our Enneagram type, influencing what we perceive in another person and how we respond when a relationship becomes charged.

This is where Object Relations gives us another lens.

In This Free Introduction, We’ll Explore:

  • Why knowing your Enneagram type may not be enough to change what happens in your most reactive relationships

  • How early relationship patterns can continue operating beneath Enneagram type

  • Why two people can experience the same interaction in completely different ways

  • How Object Relations can reveal what may be driving reactions that otherwise seem confusing or disproportionate

  • What becomes possible when you begin to recognize these deeper patterns in real time

You don’t need any prior knowledge of Object Relations.

If you already know the Enneagram, we’ll be adding another dimension to what you know.

Join Us Live on August 26

Tuesday, August 26 • 5:30 PM Pacific • Live Online

45-minute introduction + optional live Q&A and discussion

Can’t join us live? Register anyway and we’ll send you the replay.

Meet the Teachers

Elke Kurtz

is a Certified Deep Coaching practitioner and certified coach through the International Coaching Federation. She finds fulfillment in using the power of the Enneagram and DCI’s deep coaching methodology to partner with her clients in deepening their self-awareness, unlocking their self-knowing, and supporting them to live their lives with intention. Elke is also a Certified Parental Leave Coach, working with expectant and new parents to navigate the major life transition of becoming a parent. She is also Certified in the Leadership Circle Profile 360 Assessment.

Along with coaching, Elke is Director of Faculty for DCI and teaches several DCI courses. Elke has studied Object Relations with Belinda Gore and is one of Belinda’s chosen successors to continue teaching this material. Elke also facilitates Enneagram and leadership circles and leads workshops that weave together her passions for the Enneagram and parenting.

She also brings lived experience as a leader and change agent with more than 20 years of experience as a People and Culture leader in both the profit and nonprofit sectors. Throughout her career, Elke has worked to realize her vision of a world where leading with humanity and compassion are table stakes for organizations. This has meant leading culture transformations, coaching and advising leadership teams, and implementing people-centered organizational structures with an equity lens.

Elke lives in Portland, Oregon with her husband, two children, and one very feisty chihuahua. Her happy place is the Oregon Coast, where she marvels in the power and beauty of the Pacific and the old-growth forests at its edge. Elke identifies as a social type 6 on the Enneagram

Stephanie Davis

has trained extensively and worked closely with many of the system’s foundational teachers for over 35 years. She is one of the few certified practitioners globally to be Accredited with Distinction by the International Enneagram Association. She is known for her depth of knowledge, her attuned presence, and the spaces she creates for real transformation.

Stephanie is honored to be on the teaching team for Belinda Gore’s groundbreaking application of Object Relations to the Enneagram. Alongside her Enneagram expertise, she draws from formal training in Psychology, Systems Theory, and a wide range of transformational modalities– including Core Transformation, the Wholeness Process, Neurolinguistic Programming, Clear Beliefs, the Lefkoe Method, Voice Dialogue, and Internal Family Systems. Her work integrates the intellectual, emotional, and spiritual dimensions of growth, helping people reclaim their essence and experience wholeness.

While she has consulted with Fortune 100 companies and worked extensively in leadership and organizational development, her deepest joy lies in guiding individuals and groups through the terrain of the inner world. She is particularly passionate about the Enneagram’s insights into childhood adaptations, shadows, tensegrity dynamics, and pathways for integration.

A recovering Type 7, Stephanie lives in a beautiful coastal suburb of San Diego with her counterphobic Yorkipoo and her steadfast Type 9 husband. They were empty-nesters for nearly three months until a golden umbilical cord and a revolving door began luring their six grown children and assorted grandchildren back home in shifting combinations for varying stretches of time. Family chaos keeps her humble and ever on her Enneagram toes.